peaceful family law litigation

As I look at what families need in our family law system, perhaps the MOST important thing is a model for peaceful family law litigation.  why?  Because most couples will not choose collaborative law, and because uncontrolled litigation is destructive to families.  Also, if couples are to be given a chance to reconcile, old fashioned litigation just about destroys that chance.  i have been pushing my reconciliation law(tm) practice, which is important, but without keeping litigation under wraps, it probably won't work in those cases.  Also, many couples who have children are not married, so something besides reconciliation law(tm) is needed.  I am exploring a couple of models from Indiana that manage litigation.  stay tuned.